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| Choosing Happiness |
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Page 1 of 2 Are you happy? Are you really happy? What leads one person to happiness while another seems to be drawn into sadness? I have known people who were doing well, and not, who seemed to live in a state of happiness; a joy to be around and a joy to be with. They were a light in their company regardless of what was happening in their lives.
I have also met others who always lived on the edge of depression. Even when things appeared to be good in their lives they seemed to be waiting with baited breath for that proverbial shoe to come down.I have often said that depression is the result of a sense of ‘entitlement’ compounded with a lack of gratitude. This may be technically correct; still it doesn’t help the one who feels depression. A depressed person is bound in a cage for which only they have the key. They must unlock their own door, they must decide to come out and play. It would seem to be more complicated. But is it?There is a profound human tendency to complicate the simple by presuming that our past defines our future, our present and who we are. Nothing could be further from the truth; unless, of course we think it to be so. If we believe it then it becomes our truth not because our past has any more power. Rather because our belief and conviction the only power; they are all powerful in our lives. So we have a hypothesis; and on the human level it must always be a hypothesis because we can’t empirically prove it, stating that all our reality is the reflection of our belief and conviction. And its implications are far reaching and almost impossible to comprehend. It means very simply how we look at a situation completely determines our relation to, and our experience garnered from it. So if you are a sad person who has been verging on depression all your life you are likely to remain a sad and depressed person for most of the remainder of your life. Unless, of course you choose to change your belief from I can’t to a willingness to do whatever it takes to make that change. Anyone can do it just like anyone can quit smoking, drinking or binge eating; it just seems to be really unlikely. It just looks like no matter what ‘anyone’ says, they lack the inner resolve. It is easier to remain stuck in an old belief than to let it go and establish a new belief. Besides; the panel of advisors within ‘anyone’s’ head can always give more reasons to discredit the power of belief and the genuine will to change. |